19 Things Every Nurse Wishes They Could Tell Their Boss

Nursing can be difficult for about a billion zillion reasons. Sometimes work kind of feels like a relationship with a bad boyfriend, circa 1995 (when I was about 16 years old).  There have been times in my career when I have wanted to cry and shout but I love you, why don’t you love me back!?!? Sometimes, throughout my career, I have wanted to scream I’m doing everything I can to save this relationship, why are so insistent on pushing me away?!?  There have been times in my career when I’ve wanted to tell my “big bosses” so many things…

  1. I’m trying to do a good job. No one comes to work and thinks “I really want to screw something up today.” Sometimes it feels like the only feedback given to nurses is negative. It would be nice to hear a shout-out every once in awhile, even if we’re doing something we should already be doing. MI0001734750
  2. I miss my family. God, do I miss my family. When we try relentlessly to please every single person around us at work, it’s disheartening when we feel like nothing we do is appreciated, or even recognized, especially when we’re giving so much of our time to work, away from our families.
  3. Feeling supported would go along way. Even if you don’t tell us we’re doing a good job, just feeling a little support would be like a life-raft.
  4. I want to like you. I’m not saying our bosses always make it easy, but nurses want to like their bosses. And we want to be liked! I mean, ffs, we’re doing the best we can. hate-mail-2
  5. It feels like you hate me. I learned very quickly in my career that nurses self-assign motivation. But even if it is self-assigned, even if it’s some fairy tale in our heads, it’s our perception. And if patient perception is everything, then so should employee perception. Just throwing that out there.
  6. I choose to work here. Lets get one thing straight—even if I were a half-ass employee (which I’m not), I’m a registered nurse, which basically means I can get a job anywhere. Nurses choose to work where they work.
  7. I’m a good nurse. Even if no one else sees my value, I know I’m a good nurse. I know every single time I have the opportunity to mess up, and don’t. I know every single time I have the opportunity to lie, and don’t. I know every single time I spend any extra minutes I have trying to tend to my patient’s comfort. But when you question whether other people recognize your worth, it can leave you wanting to toddler-it-out and stamp your foot and emphatically say but I’m a good nurse. psychic-crystal
  8. I can’t read your mind.  This may surprise some people out there, because nurses are good at a lot of things—but we aren’t psychic. We can’t read your mind. We don’t know what you’re thinking and we we can’t always guess what’s going on in your head. Sometimes a little transparency would go a long way.
  9. Fire me already! When you live your work life in a constant state of “they hate my guts and they’re gunning for me” it would be nice if the deed could just be done quickly.
  10. I love my job. Even when things are bad with our bosses, the love for our patients is always there. We love what we do. This isn’t just a job for us, this is a calling. businessman-defeated-8554162
  11. This is hard. Even though we love our job, make no mistake about it, this job is hard. When we don’t do things perfectly, it would be nice if someone remembered that the work we do is difficult, exhausting, and potentially gut-wrenching.
  12.  I don’t get paid enough for this. We may make pretty descent money, but come on now—every nurse should be making more for the stuff we have to put up with, the stuff we have to go through, and the 30,000 different personalities we have to prance around on a daily basis. lowman
  13. Being the little man doesn’t feel good. Everyone around us loves to proclaim that bedside nurses have all the power….and in a lot of ways, that’s true. But who are we kidding? We may be informal leaders, and we may have the potential to do anything, but we’re still the low man on the totem pole. At least, that’s frequently how we feel.  Seriously, not all that long ago, I had a boss tell me not to talk to the physicians I work with. With feedback like that, how are we expected to feel like leaders?
  14. Sometimes it feels like I don’t even have a voice. Sometimes we wish we could just tell someone—anyone—that it feels as if we don’t have a voice. It feels as if nothing we say has value. Sometimes it feels like no one is listening, no one can hear us, and no one cares.
  15. My working conditions aren’t easy. I take abuse all day long. We all know that sometimes our coworkers can get feisty. Sometimes our patients can be difficult. Sometimes our physicians can be hard to handle. As nurses, there is potential for all types of abuse around every corner. how-to-quit-5-tips-from-a-headhunter
  16. Sometimes I want to quit. It is what it is.
  17. I want to do the right thing. With every fiber of my being, I want to do the right thing for our patients.
  18. I love my patients. Even the “bad” ones. Even the ungrateful ones. I just love taking care of people.
  19. Nursing is my calling. I’ve known ever since I was four-years old that I wanted to be a nurse, while putting Band Aides on teddy bears and vaccinating dolls with safety pins.  This isn’t just a job for us. Serving people is a calling,

Until my next delivery ❤


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